Gabrielle Bonheur “Coco” Chanel is a creative icon who has freed the ‘new’ woman from the millennium of dictated dress codes, stereotypical behaviors and clichéd sexual and status simplification. The little black dress has become synonymous of sophistication, to the femininity she gave the character flavor of relaxation and empowered women with timeless clothing pieces and equipped them with inspiring pieces of jewelry, distinctive decorative accessories and bold fragrances. Since then, with the Chanel fashion women were able to step sovereignly and freely aside of male. Coco resisted the reservation of clothing and decorative pieces and fabrics as exclusively masculine in order to help revolutionary women on their journey to a more a more useful elegance and a more noticeable fatality. Without any doubt she succeeded. She gave the new woman what she could not have before: practicality, youthfulness, timelessness and freedom, which was often scandalous at the time of her creation. But it has paid off with a revolution in the clothing industry and, more importantly, with a historic step in liberating the modern woman.
The more we discover the veils of narratives and records of strong, penetrating, and generally socially engaged women throughout human history, the more we find that their legacy has decisively influenced the development and emergence of society and culture, including modern ones. Gabrielle Bonheur “Coco” Chanel is certainly among the creative icons that has freed woman from millennia of dictated dress codes, archetypal patterns of behavior, and clichéd sexual and status simplification. The little black dress became synonymous with sophistication, gave femininity the character of relaxation, and empowered the woman with timeless pieces of clothing and equipped it with inspiring pieces of jewelry, recognizable decorative accessories and bold fragrances. “Fashion passes, style remains,” she said. In her oeuvre, she did not forget about theater and film.
Here and now, we try to deliberately avoid discussing Coco Chanel’s supposedly controversial life trials, such as flirting with military ideology or unconventionality in dealing with partnerships and family relationships, or encroaching on illicit substances, although they undoubtedly left visible traces on her creative excesses. We prefer to focus on its most important socio-cultural contribution. On the line of historical development, Coco Chanel took place at a time of social upheaval, in the post-world war I period at the beginning of the sexual revolution, which later included the free choice of marriage, greater economic independence, legalization of divorce and free lifestyles, which were expressed primarily by dressing. Time provided an opportunity to shape one’s own individualism when the externally mediated biography characteristic of traditional society begins to withdraw the internal, self-reflexively shaped one characteristic of modern society. Coco knew how to equip them with pioneering and cult fashion for a bolder and more relaxed, and especially liberated women of the 20th century.
Modern society is a society of the fashion industry in which fashion is a mass social phenomenon. “Women certainly have the greatest credit for the development of fashion, especially with the democratization of the masses of the 20th century, as women play an important role in modern consumption” (Koenig 1967: 131). But even this Koenig’s classic sociological definition Coco Chanel managed to take to its own mill, as it persuaded potentially increasingly free women to spend on timeless and character trends, otherwise away from the shapeless democratized masses as a result of the industrial revolution. If we had to use only one definition for her fashion, it would be consistent enough with the original French naming – the phrase facon de parler, which means “way of expression, communication” (Barnard 1996: 7-10). And if there was a fashion designer that knew in details how to communicate with fashion creations because it came from her originality, spontaneity, experience, independence and vision, it was definitely Coco.
As an orphan from the convent, Gabrielle Bonheur Chanel first had to experience herself in patching up her own torn life story, which was filled with contradictions and intrigues. But fortunately all was overshadowed by the great creative talent she displayed. A strict and frugal life with nuns who taught Gabrielle sewing – a skill that she perfected and gave her a new impetus for the creative path. With everything she did, she created her own lifestyle and began to understand the female soul in relation to the man she was constantly and everywhere trying to get into her own job. At a very young age, she set herself a clear goal: a dignified life and assertion in high society. She took care of both of them on her own with a great deal of determination, a fearless character, an uncompromising struggle for empowerment, innovative creativity and motivation in relation to all of her successful men (Chaney 2011: 48–72).
For Coco Chanel, connecting with the then elite and socially influential individuals was crucial. After difficult beginnings, male admirers helped her to develop the business in the 1920s and soon afterwards she opened fashion boutiques in elite coastal resorts. Inspired by men’s fashion, she began experimenting with women’s jersey clothing and softer, free-falling fabrics. For the visionary for the fashion liberation of women as she was, by 1919 the business in Paris was booming.
At the same time, the fashion and later the global world was marked by the CC monogram, which was designed by the visibly already established Coco. Coco self-reflexively offered the woman everything she could not have before: relaxation, practicality, youth, timelessness and freedom. She made a range of casual sweaters and knit jackets, simple business blouses and short skirts. Evening dresses were more glamorous, but did not deviate from the basic stylistic simplicity. Chanel fashion became synonymous with usability when the costume got a sophisticatedly placed horizontal pocket and a round-cut collar, by which it is still today, without exception easily recognizable. Clothing pieces were a notion of youthful effortless wear, but equipped with higher price tags, as Coco targeted primarily the conscious and liberated members of the wealthier classes (Hennessy 2012: 249).
The Coco Chanel lifestyle also suggested a specific and recognizable choice of colors. With her collections of clothing and fashion accessories, she most often promoted a palette of shades of gray, black and white, navy blue, and remained an enthusiast of beige. All the colors expressed a determined woman who could sovereignly and free-spiritedly step alongside male challengers. Coco was a master of accessories with which she maintained femininity and sophistication with femininity. Gold-plated buttons and bags with a gold-plated chain were also among the invigorating accessories. Costume jewelry for women who admired Chanel’s style, however, was not only acceptable, but even highly desirable. Her pioneering role in empowering women was joined by innovation in combining real gemstones and artificial stones – famous pearls were her favorites (ibid. 2012). Wearing these along with a skirt suit and the famous Chanel jacket with a cropped collar was popularized even in the 60s by the US First Lady Jackie Onassis, as she was a big fan of style for the liberated new woman. If not sooner, in the second half of her creative life, it became clear that Gabrielle Bonheur Coco Chanel, with her stylistic purity, precision and innovativeness, had established herself as the fashion icon of the century.
Liberation of gender identity
“Men act, woman appear” is Berger’s famous thought, which illustrates the asymmetry of gender identity due to the activity of men and the passivity of women. The role of the man is to observe and explore the opposite sex, while the role of the woman is to allow herself to be observed and explored by the opposite sex (Berger 1982: 13). Dressing has played an important role in this throughout history. Barnard went even further, as according to him “… a man should wear trousers, a woman a skirt, a man’s color should be blue, and a woman’s pink” (Barnard 1996: 110-119). At the same time, he tried to europocentrically define that ‘feminine’ is synonymous with shyness, diligence and politeness, and ‘masculine’ is synonymous with aggression, domination and employment outside the home (ibid.).
But if fashion has always been primarily a way to constitute, signal and reproduce femininity or masculinity, Coco Chanel has decided to take the ingrained codes of gender identity into her own hands. She gave to the individualistic understanding of the world an advantage over sexual identification, when the identity of an individual is no longer part of the natural and predetermined, but a reflection of a personal and a free decision. As Descamps would conclude, it is only that liberated we govern our psycho-social appearance and influence the broader social perception of ourselves as individual and equal beings (Descamps 1979). Coco therefore resisted the reticence of some key clothing and decorative items as exclusively male, in order to revolutionize women on the path towards more comfortable femininity, more useful sophistication, and more noticeable fatality. She definitely did it. She has succeeded given of all of Chanel’s iconic pieces, that have survived decades of fashion trends and seasonal collections, as they remain inscribed in stylistic timelessness.
Because the struggle for gender rights and freedoms has a long and important history, dressing along with language as expressive codes on this path has been of paramount importance. Dresses appear as “words that we combine into sentences with our image.” With them, the individual communicates with the environment (Lurie 1981: 5). With her clothing expressiveness, Coco helped women on the path of such communication and the widest possible social liberation.
Within the pluralistic conception of culture, we come to understand fashion as a specific way of life that satisfies the need to change cultural activities and living standards. “Fashion and clothing mark and herald social and cultural realities. They act as artifacts, practices and institutions that constitute social consciousness, values, ideas and experiences” (Barnard 1996: 36). With Chanel’s clothing culture that was eventually institutionalized, social consciousness has changed in understanding a new woman, strong and independent, with new values, ideas and desires, a woman looking into the future.
As only rare fashion designers have succeeded, among them the famous Frenchman Jean Patou, Coco Chanel has freed women from formalistic clothing for the next centuries. Although Coco was marked by creating in the post-war spirit, she was the originator of the creation of the modernist woman and influenced later many fashion trends. Before the First World War, in 1910, she opened the first hat shop in Paris, which attracted many unconventional women, and representatives of the social elite also began to flirt with her fashion. In the 1920s and 1930s, she developed a recognizable clothing line that, with clever simplifications hitherto seen only in men’s fashion, followed the sober and collected usability of post-war clothing (Cosgrave 2012: 18).
The women took courage and literally adopted the relaxed Chanel jersey and tweed suits, until then reserved for sailors, as well as the later rational shift to relaxed shirts and wide-bottomed pants, until then reserved for men. The arrival of the little black dress, until then reserved for mourning, resonated for decades to come, more casual shorter skirts were snatched, Slavic lines of women’s costume and costume jewelry, until then reserved for the wealthiest, and fashion accessories – jewelry, handbags and perfumes – they have become a trademark of the new woman of the 20th century. Chanel’s fashion pieces brought a timelessness of relaxed appeal and for decades remained a reflection of the airy youthfulness and effortless charm embodied by Coco Chanel. Not surprisingly, Coco Chanel is the only fashion icon to be listed by Time magazine as one of the 100 most influential people of the 20th century and was ranked among the 50 greatest women who have historically changed the world (Horton 2007: 103).
Cults of attractive relaxation
For Coco Chanel, fashion was more than just a commandment living in clothing: “Fashion is in the sky, on the street, fashion is related to ideas, the way we live, what happens around us” (Hennessy 2012: 248). Because she came mainly from her boyish figure, Chanel introduced a wide-ranging approach to fashion with the commandments of otherwise “masculine” comfort and ease of wearing, which marked the “new” woman. Her own way of life and appearance embodied modernist ideals, supported by strong publicity, which then and forever gave her a solid and iconic status. With her creations, Coco Chanel has forever changed the way women understand themselves and “how they behave”. And she unwaveringly believed in a transformation so that even the poor could be worn as millionaires with her creations (Pendergast 2004: 792).
A tight corset just because it’s socially acceptable? But not with Coco. Due to Chanel fashion, women were no longer a decorative object and a wealth of men, but on the right path towards independence. With her unique, rebellious attitude and recognizable clothing, decorative accessories and fragrances, she demonstrated to women that they can be free in every way – if they are willing to pay the price for freedom. Despite many social criticisms, Chanel has always defended her fashion and view of things, which was often scandalous during her creation, but ultimately paid off with a revolution in the clothing industry and, more importantly, with a historic step in liberation of a modern women.
Coco was the first fashion designer to use a fabric reserved for men’s underwear for women’s daywear. Jersey was, in her view, simple, practical, and comfortable, and in her final Chanel creation the perfect antithesis of what women’s clothing used to be: complex, exaggerated, and designed around an uncomfortable corset. The choice of material was also subject to the time, as there was a great shortage of more expensive fabrics due to the war, which Coco could not afford at the beginning of her career. In her simplified creations, the women looked more androgenic, boyish, as the jersey was free-falling, but the freedom they felt while wearing was irreplaceable and unstoppable. The revolution for women’s freedom was already on the march.
As we note, Coco was among the first to look for inspiration in men’s clothing to create women’s iconic fashion. One of the most recognizable creations is the Chanel tweed costume. The jacket has a round-cut collar with knitted linings, three-quarter sleeves, and is adorned with metal buttons, with an accompanying flat-cut and tight-fitting skirt over the knees. Such a costume would be the perfect choice for a post-war woman looking to build a career in a male-dominated workplace. Chanel’s costume was favored by many celebrities and cult women, such as Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly, and it went down in history forever when it was worn by Jackie Kennedy on the day of her husband’s murder. Of course, there were some other useful versions of Chanel costumes that were combined with other garments and adorned with typical Chanel jewelry (Laver 1995: 272–275).
Pants for women
Coco loosened the belts of the dresses, shortening the skirts to make them more useful. And then came the moment to revalue the hitherto male piece of clothing – trousers. Although women often had to wear trousers during the war when performing traditional men’s chores, Chanel played a large role in promoting their popularity as a women’s piece of fashion clothing. It started on the beach of Deauville resort when she didn’t want to be exposed and decided to wear sailor pants instead of a swimsuit. The style spread rapidly as she was imitated by many female followers. She borrowed masculine relaxation and sovereignty to modernize women’s fashion by wearing pants and introducing functional sportswear. She later publicly regretted that her decision influenced the course of fashion history, as today too many women wear them even to a gala dinner (ibid. 1995).
Little black dress
Chanel once said of her fashionable hats and loose-fitting clothes, the design of which was influenced primarily by her life desires: “Luxury must be comfortable, otherwise it is not a luxury.” And soon a new item of clothing appeared, which did not give her peace of mind and she tackled it. At the time, the fashionable rainbow blues worn by her classmates upset her quite a bit: “These colors are impossible, women, I will dress you in black!” (Montalembert 2011: 63) Today, it is hard to imagine a world without black as flawless elegance in choosing a dress, but before Chanel, black was reserved for funerals and mourning widows. Coco revived the black dress in a new image, so that the little black dress (PRN – petite robe noire, LBD – little black dress) became a modern cocktail dress and a cult piece of the next century. She also added the famous wardrobe clasp, which was published in 1926 in Vogue magazine with a sketch of a simple black dress and labeled it “a ray that would be worn all over the world” (Pendergast 2004).
French designer Paul Poiret (1879-1944) was among the first to use costume jewelry in his collections. But the real trend happened with Chanel jewelry when Coco presented a match of counterfeit large pearls along with precious stones. The decorative extravagance was the perfect accompaniment to her minimalist clothing. The fashion guru thought it was best to have a bunch of fake gems and one or two real ones, with all of her wealthy and petite clients agreeing. Although the counterfeit jewelry market existed before, it was reserved for those who could not afford a real gemstone. With Chanel jewelry has been different ever since.
In the early 20th century, pale skin that was occasionally and partially tanned was associated with the lower strata. In 1923, however, Coco Chanel made the sun a real fashion hit when she returned from a cruise on the French Riviera to Paris completely tanned. Everyone admired her darker complexion and hurried to follow this natural ‘disguise’. ‘Suntan’ has become a sign of wealth and beauty, a trend with lasting effects. So, Coco can also be thanked for the popularity of summer tanned skin.
The 1920s were important for liberating a woman with a bold inspiration carried by new fragrances. Until then, they were made from pure extracts of individual flowers, so Chanel perfume became a concept of a unique fragrance that combined and blended two different scents in creating perfume number 5. In 1920, Coco created Chanel No. 5, the first odor that deliberately smelled artificial. It was also made from unnatural ingredients, unlike regular perfumes that were created with floral ingredients. Although the aforementioned Paul Poiret was the first fashion house with its own perfume scent, the designer missed out on the move when he declined his name on the bottle. Chanel was a visionary with the soul of a free modern woman, so she imaginatively put her name on perfume number 5 and Chanel Nº 5 rapidly expanded into new markets. To this day, the Chanel perfume line has maintained a reputation for cult scents that are hard to overpower (ibid. 2004).
“You notice a dress when a woman is poorly dressed, when she is dressed flawlessly, you notice a woman,” (Cosgrave 2012: 138) is a thought that catapulted Coco Chanel to one of the greatest creative icons in human history. And her legacy therefore remains with us.
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 La mode se démode, le style jamais. Fashion passes, style remains. Coco Chanel’s statement on the ephemerality of fashion can be found in a number of publications (Cosgrave 2012: 155).
 Chanel was the second daughter of a washerwoman and travel saleswoman. She had four surviving siblings. When the father hired two sons to work on the farm, he left his daughters Gabrielle, Julie and Antoinette in the orphanage of the convent in Moulins after the death of their mother in 1895 (Charles-Rous 2005: 50–60).
 At 18, she left an orphanage and worked as a seamstress in a shop during the day. At night, she sang at a local nightclub to make a living, where she earned the nickname “Coco,” which is an abbreviation of the French word ‘cocotte’ and means ‘detained woman’ (ibid.: 88).
 Financial independence and self-awareness of her early life trials encouraged her to have relationships with high-profile, influential, but at the same time controversial men. Among them were Picasso, Cocteau, and Stravinsky. She had more intimate relationships with the seven and is said to have directly influenced her inspiration and business success.
 Fashion boutiques along the coastal cities of Deauville and Biarritz encouraged Coco to create from different materials, to stylistically transfer from a free man to a free woman, so she moved with her business to Paris on Rue 31 Cambon, where Chanel still lives today.
 It is not entirely clear where Coco Chanel got its inspiration for its double C logo. The same logo is located in the stained glass window of the Château de Crémat in Nice (France), which Coco Chanel has visited several times (Click 2019).
 Other women who have marked human history include Cleopatra, Mary Magdalene, Catherine the Great, Elizabeth I, Emmeline Pankhurst, Jane Austen, Amelia Earhart, Marie Curie, Florence Nightingale, Mother Theresa, Virginia Woolf, Eleanor Roosevelt, Helen Keller, Anne Frank, Katharine Hepburn, Simone de Beauvoir, Rosa Parks, Eva Peron, Margaret Thatcher, Marilyn Monroe, Germaine Greer, Billie Jean King, Oprah Winfrey, Madonna and Princess Diana.
 The classic Chanel costume jacket had four pockets with a straight neckline at hip height. It could be worn open, with a longer chain at chest height or even up to the waist, usually on a single clasp with a metal button or a simple zipper. The lining of the jacket should match the outer fabric or blouse. With a classic Chanel costume, a pastel-colored blouse with a silk collar was most often worn.
 Le luxe doit être confortable, sinon ce n’est pas du luxe.
 The origin of the perfume dates back to 1920, while distribution began in 1921 (Tilar 2012: 97).
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1. Know Your Stuff (Hair Condition AND Hair Products)
Whether they’re products for the locks atop your head or for the follicles that make up your facial hair, it’s always best to know what they’re made of.
This isn’t as complicated as it sounds. All you have to do is draw your eyes towards the label of the products you come across.
There are those that target very specific types of hair damage as well as ones that have characteristics which offer up particular benefits.
Check out hair products for dryness and frizz, brittleness, split ends, and more. At the same time, you can go for items for hair strengthening, softness, easy-combing (tangles), shine, and the like.
Know what hair problems your locks are combating at the moment for you to understand what products to arm them with.
2. A Bit O’ Scrubbing
Face scrubbing, that is. Besides washing, keeping that moneymaker scrubbed is a way to ensure that dirt, grime, and oil are removed from the skin’s dermis. Doing so will lessen the risk of them accumulating, which may cause breakouts, irritation, redness, and even inflammation (hello, pimples).
Furthermore, a scrub-a-dub-dub on your face will serve as exfoliation to rid it of dead skin cells and make room for new ones. Here’s a practice that will ultimately rejuvenate your skin and activate pores to produce healthier hair follicles.
3. Ice It Up
Not cold water. Iced. Dermatologists recommend that you wash your face with lukewarm water, and with your favourite facial wash, of course. After lathering that baby up, wash the foam and soap residue off. Then, do another face-splash with ice-cold water.
And by “ice-cold”, we mean that you pour ice cubes into the H20 you’ll use.
Warm water opens up your pores. Alternately, cold water will close them up. The latter is crucial so as to prevent dirt from creeping in (as gross as this may sound).
Aside from this, grab a few ice cubes and wrap them in a towel. Gently pat this innovative ice-towel pouch all over your face. Or, if you’re resilient enough, hold a cube in between your fingers and do the same.
Ice reduces that “puffiness” caused by lack of sleep, oversleeping, sleeping late, and yes, hangovers. It’s also a natural remedy for reducing those nasty little incessant bags under your eyes. It can soothe rashes and sunburn, too.
4. Counting Sheep
We’ve already mentioned a couple of key-phrases with the word “sleep” in them and there’s a reason behind the repetition. Having a proper sleeping habit will allow your bodily systems to operate normally.
One of the advantages of this is that said body-recharging during sleep will boost blood circulation. And a stable blood circulation will always bring about skin health.
Sometimes, the results are immediate. They’re not necessarily drastic. But every now and then, you’ll get see the difference come morning. A good night’s snoozing will have you wake up to a fresher-feeling you, with facial skin that’s “full of life”!
Additionally, achieving proper sleep regularly— on time and in the correct number of hours— may contribute to moisturization. Accordingly, moisturized skin is less vulnerable to dullness, fine lines, and wrinkles.
How to Care for Lilies During Spring and Summer
As you know, lilies are among the most popular garden plants. However, growing lilies is not easy, and caring for them can be especially difficult since lilies are very fragile and sensitive plants. Therefore, it is important to care for them throughout the season with due attention, especially after flowering. However, with proper supervision, they will please you by becoming a wonderful decoration for your garden. How to care for lilies during the spring and summer? Let’s find the answers.
Four Tips for Looking After Lilies
There is no significant difference whether you choose Asiatic, Double-flowering or tree lilies from https://dutch-bulbs.com/goliath-and-tree-liliums/ because the key rules for their care are similar. The main rule in caring for these gorgeous flowers is doing everything on time, so there will be no difficulties and you will not have to suffer the consequences of failure. Here are our four treatment tips for lilies.
- How to Care for Lilies During Spring and Summer
An important tip for the excellent growth and development of large buds is the correct preparation of bulbs for planting. After the fading of petals, the process of bulb developing begins, and the next flowering depends on this. The largest and healthiest bulbs are obtained from those plants that have faded naturally and under the right conditions. In this regard, cutting hinders the development, but with proper care, the likelihood of growing a large bulb is quite high.
- Caring for Faded Lilies
So, the most important thing in the growing process is not to cut the flower even after the plant has faded and does not look neat enough. Do not be alarmed that the stems and leaves look sluggish – they continue to feed the bulb. We also advise not to touch the annual roots – they are also a good source of nutrition.
- Feeding Lilies After Flowering
These plants appreciate feeding, so they just need it both during and after flowering. The most successful fertilizer will be mixtures that contain potassium and phosphorus, while mineral mixtures, on the contrary, should be avoided – they are not suitable for lilies. Gardeners recommend feeding the lilies with wood ash during the summer at least four or even five times. Ash has a productive effect on the size of buds and their flowering and also increases the plant’s immunity.
4. Replanting After Flowering
People recommend to transplant lilies in early August. When a month after flowering has passed, the plant will be ready for replanting. It is not recommended to do it earlier, since the bulbs need to get enough nutrients. Early transplanting can affect the plant – at best it will be difficult to take root, at worst – the plant may die.
In the first year of life, lilies usually do not reach their full development and may bloom poorly, but in subsequent years they will delight you with their beautiful flowering. Good luck!
5 Ways To Make A Long Distance Relationship Last If You Meet Online
There is are common misconceptions that long-distance relationships and relationships formed through online dating never last. Both are challenging, and when mixed together, become a challenge that only true love can overcome. It isn’t easy overcoming the distance and time difference, but it isn’t impossible either. In fact, those who last long enough to translate long-distance relationships to meeting in-person are said to be the most loyal partners you’ll ever find.
Long-distance relationships aren’t the only test you’ll have to overcome; transitioning from the online phase to the in-person phase is also a quest on its own. However, after reading interracialdatingsites.online review and tips below, you could find a dating site that helps to start a conversation. But remember that you shouldn’t get hung up only on online communication; the next step should be the first date in real life.
Long-Distance Relationship Is Hard Work
Long-distance relationships come with their own unique set of challenges. There are many uncertainties involved you’ll often find yourself questioning, is the relationship worth it? Would it be better to date a random person in real life? What if it is a scam? What if the relationship isn’t what I’ve hoped for? Doubting the relationship and its integrity is something that will only damage the fragileness of your young couple.
All things worth it require hard work and dedication; without the passion for making things work, the long-distance relationship will fall flat early into the journey. However, the proper mix of time, love, and a partner that’s worth fighting for will make all challenges seem like a piece of cake to overcome.
Filling the void of “missing” someone when you haven’t met them and missing them even when you’re talking is a feeling all long-distance relationship couples feel. Making time out of your busy schedule to indulge and pamper your partner with virtual dates is what’ll help overcome the feeling of uneasiness
Be Honest and Be Yourself
Everything that needs to last long requires trust and honesty. Both things go hand-in-hand you can’t expect only to give or take; it’s the same with business deals. Mutual understanding leads to long-lasting partnerships. The same is the case with long-distance relationships. Without being honest and open, there are little honeyed words can do to help with it.
You need to be yourself; putting on a façade and acting like someone you aren’t won’t help a relationship that’s already so fragile. Eventually, you’ll have to meet in-person. It’s unavoidable. Moreover, in a relationship, you don’t want your significant other to love you for who you’re not (that is a fake version of yourself), nor would you like to keep pretending.
Everyone has their unique traits and personality, which makes them one of a kind. Pretending to be someone you’re not, like a person that can’t stand being far away from your partner, won’t help your case in the long run. Even if it’s working right now, it’s bound to break later on.
From Online Conversation to the First Date: Bring the Relationship Into the Real World
Great, you’ve successfully managed to make a long-distance relationship last. You communicate online freely, care about your partner, and have a bond that will not break easily. But now comes another challenge, how do you transition from online to offline? It is an awkward phase to overcome, everyone takes time, and some even fail. But with a perfect mix of online dating and offline interaction, the in-person encounter work.
What could help your case would be regular conversations about the in-person meeting, how you’ll meet, talk, the expectations, and anxiety. Choose the spot long beforehand and flesh it out in your chats. To put it simply, being an open-book is essential here. Having over the top expectation and romanticizing the first meeting can lead to disappointment on both ends, which is why you’ll need to communicate to reduce the chances of failure.
Improve Your Communication Skills
Communicate more; long-distance relationships are fueled based on interactions. There is no other way of knowing or understanding your partner since there are no face-to-face interactions, nor are you a part of their day. This is why it is important to regularly ask questions like, “how was your day? Did you eat today?”.Simple good morning and good night messages can make an enormous difference as well.
Keeping Your Life Balanced, Don’t Get Obsessed With Chatting Online
We all know the need to stick to our phones when in a long-distance relationship, always expecting a new message. It’s important to realize that being fixated on online chatting isn’t helping your case. It is driving you away from responsibilities and the people around you. Even acts like watching movies together, playing online games, and video calling should not take most of your time. Remembering to keep a balance between online dating and real-life responsibilities is essential. Prioritizing one over the other can jeopardize your sociability and image.
To achieve that perfect balance, you’ll need to communicate with your partner about the commitments you have to your job and other social interaction in-real-life. Set timings to overcome the time zone differences and schedule the time for love and everything else.
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